Forgiving is powerful because it sets you free. But selective forgiveness has the opposite effect. From the moment you decide to only forgive people who you think deserve to be forgiven, you are judging people based on merit and singling them out. By doing so, you will inevitably feed resentment – and that’s how you end up “attached” to the person you can’t forgive in an unhealthy way.
I’ve learned to forgive everyone – and quickly. It’s largely an attitude towards life, but I couldn’t do it without feeding myself daily with love for God, myself and everyone else.
Trust me, the feeling of being free from resentment is priceless.